Recapitulando: Abr. 2015

Na capa do jornal!

Na capa do jornal!

Abril virou, curiosamente, um mês importante para mim, porque foi quando, em 2012, comecei meu relacionamento com o Paulo e, ano passado, lançamos a Capitolina. Isso significa que, daqui em diante, é o aniversário da revista e do meu namoro, época de comemorações, decisões e mudanças, como aniversários têm que ser. Abril foi, então, tomado de escolhas profissionais sérias, dentre elas a decisão de que editora vai publicar o livro da Capitolina (estamos fechadas com a Editora Seguinte, selo jovem da Cia. das Letras, e nossas editoras lá são maravilhosas), da designer do nosso novo site (minha amiga querida e talentosa Lara Mendonça), do que faremos daqui pra frente (ainda é segredo, mas fiquem de olho porque nosso projeto no Catarse sai nos próximos dias e revelará nossos planos). Também foi um mês de ainda mais exposição midiática: estivemos na capa d’O Globo, por essa ótima matéria da Joana Dale sobre movimentos feministas atuais, e saiu a entrevista que dei pra Mariana T.K. do Baby Tears, inspirada no 1989 da Taylor Swift.

Num piquenique da Capitolina. Foto: Alile Dara.

Num piquenique da Capitolina. Foto: Alile Dara.

E, em meio a isso tudo, por causa disso tudo, um ciclo se fechou no último dia de abril: ontem me despedi da editora na qual trabalhei nos últimos quase cinco anos, para me dedicar mais à Capitolina e trabalhar como autônoma. Por isso este novo site, com links para meu portfólio de textos e o tipo de trabalho que eu faço, e por isso também agora sou oficialmente MEI, tenho alvará e tudo, e posso ser contratada direitinho como empresa. É uma mudança grande e estranha, provavelmente escreverei mais sobre ela por aqui, mas é também uma mudança fundamental neste novo momento.

Por causa desse monte de coisa rolando, acabou sendo um mês com menos textos meus por aí (mas alguns textos aqui no blog!): escrevi meus já tradicionais posts de sugestões de entretenimento e de links na Capitolina, além de um guia de organização do tempo. Pelo resto da internet, estreei na Revista Pólen com uma pequena participação neste post falando sobre Middlesex e com um ensaio sobre destinos da linguagem, caps lock e Channing Tatum. Preparem-se, no entanto, para uma overdose de Sofia na internet a partir de maio!

Selfie das migas no outro piquenique.

Selfie das migas no outro piquenique. Eu, Bia Quadros, Vanessa Raposo, Verônica Montezuma, Carol Walliter, Laura Pires, Bárbara Carneiro e Thais Bakker.

LIVROS

Brideshead Revisited, Evelyn Waugh: Comecei o mês com o romance inglês e histórico e homoafetivo Brideshead Revisited. Gostei particularmente pelas descrições de aristocratas católicos em decadência (tenho uma fascinação narrativa por histórias de opulência, ascenção e queda) e pelo tema recorrente da memória, das ligações que fazemos em retrospecto para que nossa narrativa pessoal tome forma.

Harry Potter e a Pedra Filosofal & Harry Potter e a Câmara Secreta & Harry Potter e o Prisioneiro de Azkaban, J.K. Rowling: se vocês acompanham o blog, já sabem que estou relendo a série toda com o namorado. Fiz o post comentando o primeiro livro aqui, e posts seguintes devem vir em breve, mas a gente lê mais rápido do que escreve então já estamos atacando o Harry Potter e o Cálice de Fogo.

Casal que lê Harry Potter unido permanece unido.

Casal que lê Harry Potter unido permanece unido.

LINKS: LONGREADS

Don’t mistake your best friend for a mirror: On Sophie and Frances Ha (Rachel Vorona Cote, Jezebel, 21 abr. 2015): sobre amizades, narrativas, crescimento e Frances Ha.
“And so, as an adolescent, I looked for a co-author. My best friends and I spun stories that took all number of twists and turns, but always traced one life lived by two. Mapping out my life alongside a best friend relieved me of half the burden of becoming someone; I was only responsible for writing half of the story. This was deeply appealing to me, as someone who was chronically unsure of my own potential but never unsure of my friends.”

Clandestinos (Paula Mariá, Provavelmente, 6 abr. 2015): sobre as imagens de vítima x criminoso.
“Ou seja, se você nunca passou um tempo na cadeia, não significa que você não fez nada errado, significa apenas que você nunca foi pego. E você nunca ter sido pego diz muito mais sobre a posição social que você habita, a cor da sua pele, o seu local de fala, do que sobre a sua ética e caráter. Aliás, como lei não é o mesmo que justiça, agir dentro dela não é o mesmo que ser justo, nem honesto, nem de caráter. Se ser “criminoso” é ser apontado e culpado por uma sociedade e sistema carcerários extremamente corrompidos, desumanos e lotados de preconceitos, como vamos pautar nossa esperança nisso?”

The Dark Side of Empathy: Mimesis, Deception and the Magic of Alterity (Nils Bubandt, Comparative Studies in Society and History, 2014): sobre empatia como virtude ou como falha.
“Our proposition is simple (and perhaps because of its simplicity it has been almost entirely overlooked): quite frequently, empathic identifications with others do not have as their goal mutual understanding, altruism, consolation, intersubjective compassion, care, or social cohesion — goals conventionally regarded as the sine qua non of empathy. Instead, the empathic faculty is used for deceptive and ultimately violent purposes. Our focus on these instances where empathy and deception are linked with aggressive intent is not to deny that empathy is frequently associated with some or all of its conventional virtues, but we think that there is more to its nature. We are interested in those instances when the empathetic incorporation of an alien perspective contains, and in fact is motivated by, seduction, deception, manipulation, and violent intent.”

16: Mackensie is Pulling Out Her Hair (Jessica Testa, Buzzfeed, 16 abr. 2015): estreia da nova série do Buzzfeed, 16, que investiga a vida de adolescentes, este texto acompanha Mackensie, que sofre de tricotilomania.
“When she was in fifth grade, Mackensie began pulling the hair from her eyebrows. They were thick, and she was self-conscious, so she used her fingers to thin them out. The summer before sixth grade, she began pulling from her scalp. A large bald spot formed on the back of her head, so over winter break, her dad cut off all of her hair. She started wearing a wig. By now — 10th grade — Mackensie’s wild, wiry curls have grown back, and she uses her bun or a hairpiece to hide her bald spots.”

Sou dessas (Aline Valek, 16 abr. 2015): sobre como vemos o mundo.
“Entendo que somos uma espécie absurdamente limitada e mal resolvida. E que, por essa razão, é tão difícil para nós aceitar o outro. Mas acredito que, num futuro próximo, essa será a principal adaptação evolutiva que vai separar os que vão ficar para trás dos que irão continuar esse louco projeto chamado humanidade.”

The Fugly Dyke Chronicles: How Getting Trolled About My Insecurities Is The Best Thing That Ever Happened to My Self-Esteem (Heather Hogan, Autostraddle, 14 abr. 2015): sobre insegurança e trolls de internet.
““Fugly dyke” was funny to me at first, when the messages started appearing in my email and Tumblr ask box. “You’re just a dumb virgin who can’t drive,” I’d say out loud as I deleted them. “Trang Pak is a grotsky, little byotch.” It’s not like I was dealing with GamerGate-caliber cyberterrorism. It was probably a disgruntled shipper. It was probably someone who was mad at me for clowning on the cute boys on Pretty Little Liars. It was probably some 13-year-old girl who was furious that I made One Direction jokes on Twitter the day one not-Harry Styles left the band. That was probably it.”

Eu não quero falar sobre isso (Gabriela Martins, Andam Falando, 16 abr. 2015): sobre respeito à privacidade.
“Será que não rola de a gente decidir por si só se está pronto e quer falar de uma coisa ou não? Por que é que as pessoas se sentem no direito de só receber sim como resposta, e ao receber um não, por mais que seja apenas uma opção pessoal de não compartilhar dado acontecimento, gera todo um conflito, como se pessoa tivesse sido ofendida? Eu não quis ofender minhas amigas quando eu não compartilhei com elas, como hoje de manhã também não quis ofender ninguém. Por que é que eu me sinto na obrigação de me desculpar por não querer compartilhar com os outros o que eu sinto ou o que me acontece?”

You can trace a lifetime of gender inequality through Everyday Sexism (Laura Bates, The Guardian, 16 abr. 2015): sobre o projeto Everyday Sexism.
“Soon after, on 16 April 2012, I started a simple website where I asked people to share their experiences of gender inequality. Today, just three years on, 100,000 testimonies have been submitted to the Everyday Sexism Project from around the globe. They describe humiliation and harassment, prejudice and discrimination, domestic violence and rape. These stories have been used to work with ministers and parliamentarians in various countries; to teach about consent and healthy relationships at schools; to help police forces improve their response to sexual offences; and to tackle workplace discrimination in businesses.”

You hate yourself because we told you to (Nikki Lee, Medium, 9 abr. 2015): sobre sucesso, insegurança, medo e internet.
“You hate yourself because you’ll never win.
Life isn’t a video game. You can’t freeze time on that one glorious moment when you beat the bad guy and save the land and rescue your love interest and everything is finally perfect. Life isn’t a trophy for you to put on your shelf.
You can’t win because winning doesn’t exist.”

Mental Health Canon n. 1: Mockingjay/An Untamed State (Jaya Saxena, The Membrane, 8 dez. 2014): sobre trauma, dor e consequências na literatura.
“The idea of violence as traumatizing, as a force strong enough to permanently damage your psyche, has been around since before we had the words for it. People were confused or haunted or abnormal, they had Shell Shock before they had PTSD. The words came late because, I believe, they are almost unnecessary. You don’t need a diagnosis to tell you that, after being thrown into an arena to kill fellow teenagers, you’ll be different. You might be the one suffering from nightmares and panic attacks, or the one who hardens themselves, or the one who numbs the pain with alcohol or opiates. But the assumption that something will happen is intrinsic. It’s natural.”

Plug into your weirdness (Gala Darling, 8 abr. 2015): sobre criatividade.
“In a lot of ways, creating art is more “safe” these days. You can test out a little piece of something — writing, art, a project, an idea — on social media and see what the response is before you commit to it fully. (…) With constant feedback and critique, it’s difficult to keep producing something that doesn’t get dozens of likes, and the flip-side is just as destructive. When you see that something is “working”, the desire to continue churning out the same old dross is irresistible.”

Pretty Litle Liars episode 525 recap: The greatest show on Earth (Heather Hogan, Autostraddle, 7 abr. 2015): porque a season final de Pretty Little Liars foi tudo que eu queria, e mais.
“If your main thing when you are watching Pretty Little Liars is whatever circus promos ABC Family has on blast, go watch Scooby-Doo. You know who A is! It has been confirmed! A is the male gaze powered by surveillance culture and enabled by a victim-blaming society saturated in sexism and obsessed with denying women their agency. Who has been systematically torturing the Liars all this time? The patriarchy, just as we suspected! Who thinks women are interchangeable play things created to act out male fantasies? The patriarchy.”

Admit it: Your fave is problematic (Ijeoma Oluo, Matter, 31 mar. 2015): sobre a tendência de decidir quem é ou não “problemático”.
“You’ve made a misogynistic joke, you’ve had a classist response to a homeless person, you’ve felt unjustified fear of a black man, or you used to say “That’s so gay” as an insult. You did these things, and they were shitty things to do. I don’t care about your motives, I don’t care how long ago it was. You did them, and in that moment, you were sexist, classist, racist, homophobic, ableist, whatever. You have hurt people, even if you didn’t mean to. And if you are a grownup truly committed to your values, you have admitted it and done your best to learn from it. But chances are, if you can’t handle facing it in a celebrity you don’t even know, you haven’t been able to face it in yourself.”

Shine Theory: Why powerful women make the greatest friends (Ann Friedman, The Cut, 31 mai. 2013): sobre amizade em vez de competitividade.
“Approaching and befriending women who I identify as smart and powerful (sometimes actively pursuing them, as with any other crush) has been a major revelation of my adult life. First, there’s the associative property of awesomeness: People know you by the company you keep. I like knowing that my friends are so professionally supportive that when they get a promotion, it’s like a boost for my résumé, too, because we share a network and don’t compete for contacts. Also, it’s just plain tough out there — for all the aforementioned reasons about the economy and the dating scene and body-image pressures. I want the strongest, happiest, smartest women in my corner, pushing me to negotiate for more money, telling me to drop men who make me feel bad about myself, and responding to my outfit selfies from a place of love and stylishness, not competition and body-snarking.”

How do you get shit done? (Jazmine Hughes [org.], The Hairpin, 9 jan. 2015): sobre produtividade.
“So I’ve adopted that mentality for the new year (nap success TBD)—simply, “just do it”—and thus far it’s done me well; every day I have to do one thing that needs to get done before I can consider the day over. This isn’t going to result in any major changes, because part of the reason why I procrastinate is because I enjoy it—I am at my best when I have a large Dunkin’ Donuts iced coffee, a Girl Talk album blaring through my headphones, and five hours to write 2000 words—but will keep me from losing my mind, I hope. But I’m always curious how other people get this done—to all of the Hairpin contributors who file articles before their deadline, I ask: “how”—so this month, I asked: how do you get your shit done?”

Literatura juvenil para garotas: o térreo da escada literária é também o térreo de nossa revolução (Clara Browne, Alpaca, 2 abr. 2015): sobre o poder subestimado da literatura para garotas adolescentes.
“Existe o mito de que há uma ordem, de certa maneira cronológica, a ser seguida pelos leitores do mundo: à medida que a pessoa cresce, ela necessariamente tem que deixar os livros de que gosta para embarcar mais e mais na literatura “para adultos”. Existe também esse outro mito de que a literatura infantojuvenil é menos digna ou menos elevada do que essa literatura a qual, aparentemente, devemos chegar. É como se, a cada ano de nossas vidas, subíssemos um degrau na escada da literatura, de forma a atingirmos nossa maturidade ao lermos o que a sociedade literata nos diz ser melhor para nossas cabecinhas coitadas que não conseguem distinguir ou entender o que é bom e o que é ruim. Custou-me um tempo, mas aprendi: isso tudo é balela.”

Eat, pray, roll (Mary H. K. Choi, Matter, 31 mar. 2015): sobre drogas e a tentativa de tirar férias da própria existência.
“Partying felt less loaded than sex or friendship or family and it surprised me how people never seemed to mind as you went from knowing them to adoring them and then unknowing them, all within a six-to-eight-hour span. With ecstasy there is no serotonergic choice but for everyone to love everyone and then stop. It silenced social math. It’s only when those dials in my head go dark that I can have a good time.”

No labels, no drama, right? (Jordana Narin, The New York Times, 30 abr. 2015): sobre o medo de definir relacionamentos.
“But by not calling someone, say, “my boyfriend,” he actually becomes something else, something indefinable. And what we have together becomes intangible. And if it’s intangible it can never end because officially there’s nothing to end. And if it never ends, there’s no real closure, no opportunity to move on.”

Outsider/Insider (Jenny Zhang, Rookie, 18 abr. 2012): sobre pertencer.
“The jabs and the jokes about my knobby knees and my next-to-nothing chest that were so much a part of the early years of my teenage life, that I thought I would carry in my heart forever like a wound that does not heal, disappeared one day. It took me some time to catch up with these changes, to switch my idea of myself as this awkward, gawky, hideously unwanted creature to someone who didn’t need to move through the world so wounded all the freaking time. And no matter how much I tried to track these physical changes—to the point where I would sometimes spend entire afternoons sitting in front of a mirror, waiting to see something happen—it always came as a surprise. Like the time I walked past my university’s post office and saw my reflection in the glass door and I felt so beautiful and happy that I wanted to cry, because the day had finally come when I had realized that I was no longer the person I was when I thought the pain I felt would be the pain I would always feel.”

How One Direction helped me find my girls (Mackenzie Kruvant, Buzzfeed, 26 mar. 2015): sobre a importância de fandoms.
“These girls are creating a world for themselves where they feel safe and supported and encouraged to express themselves, and it’s incredible. Why are so many people so eager to mock women for “acting like girls” by expressing passion in fandom, when we as a society allow men to fanboy over sports and superheroes well into adulthood? Why are we pushing girls away from a fandom that is teaching them new talents, how to navigate relationships with each other and the media world around them by telling them their feelings are not valid?”

Happy birthday to us (Amanda Palmer, 29 abr. 2015): sobre amor e gratidão.
“today, even if it only takes you 30 seconds, write or call (snail letter or text or email) someone you really love but haven’t been in touch with for a while. someone you just fucking adore but who isn’t super close to your life all the time, someone who you’ve got no beef or drama with, someone you think would just be happy to get a random text reminding them that there’s someone in the world who is thinking of them and happy they exist.”

“Your fave is problematic” is problematic (Lorena Piñeiro, 25 abr. 2015): sobre empatia, ídolos e o direito de errar.
“Eu tenho uma obsessão diagnosticada pela perfeição – em mim e nos outros. Visito momentos em que pessoas queridas cometeram deslizes, tentando me convencer de que elas estavam justificadas em suas escolhas. Um hemisfério do meu cérebro batalha para tentar absolvê-las, enquanto o outro exerce seu julgamento implacável. Sujeito todos os meus atos e pensamentos ao mesmo escrutínio. São meses e meses de angústia ruminando cada pequeno desvio. Eu te perdoo, mas eu jamais esqueço. Eu me perdoo, mas eu jamais esqueço.”

The “loser edit” that awaits us all (Colson Whitehead, The New York Times, 3 mar. 2015): sobre as narrativas da memória.
“Fifteen years later, the critical language used to carve up the phonies, saints and sad-sack wannabes of reality shows has migrated, and the loser edit has become a limber metaphor for exploring our own real-world failures. Fate doles out ideas for subplots — fire her, dump him, all species of mortification — and we eagerly run with them, cutting loser narratives for friends and enemies, the people we have demoted to the status of mere character. Everybody’s setbacks or degradations have been foreshadowed if we look hard enough at the old tape. We arrange the sequences, borrowing from cultural narratives of disgrace, sifting through the available footage with a bit of hindsight — and in turn, we endure our own loser edits when we stumble.”

O guia definitivo para escrever o outro sem parecer um idiota (Lorena Piñeiro, Revista Pólen, 27 abr. 2015): sobre as dificuldades de escrever experiências diferentes das nossas.
“Contudo, esse personagem nem sempre pertencerá a um cenário intrincado de ficção científica ou high fantasy. Ele nem sempre será uma tela em branco na qual você pode despejar suas vivências e criar suas próprias regras. Caso você seja um homem branco vivendo em São Paulo no século XXI, o outro pode ser uma mulher negra nessa exata conjuntura. Caso você seja uma mulher cisgênero, o outro pode ser um homem transexual. Aí a coisa fica mais desafiadora: não basta pensar que somos todos seres humanos e ignorar as relações de poder e privilégio que nos afetam de formas tão distintas. O pano de fundo pode alterar a forma como amamos, como comemos, como sonhamos. A pergunta é: como arquitetar um personagem cujas experiências são tão distintas de forma que ele não pareça um estereótipo unidimensional?”

Empathy, in excess (Jenny Zhang, Rookie, 15 abr. 2015): sobre abuso e empatia.
“After our relationship ended, I thought the noble, virtuous thing to do was to keep a vow of silence (lest someone accuse me of being a drama stirring, shit-talking spurned ex-girlfriend) and not to try out him as an abuser, or humiliate him, or shame him publicly. I felt that I was being a good person by extending empathy to him. I wanted to think of him as helpless rather than malicious. Mentally ill and untreated, rather than intentionally, calculatingly unkind and cruel. This way of thinking also helped me to see myself as less of a victim and more of a magnanimous soul capable of loving and forgiving anyone—as someone who saw the world with way too much nuance to ever think of another person as a monster. After all, you can’t be a victim if you’re a bitch sometimes. You can’t be a victim if you’re a brat sometimes. You can’t be a victim if you’re selfish sometimes. You can’t be a victim if you are a bully sometimes. You can’t be a victim if you are conniving sometimes. You can’t be a victim if you are calculating sometimes. But the truth is you can be anything, you can be worse than all of those things and still be a victim who deserved better. I couldn’t be a victim because I didn’t want to see myself that way. Because I wanted to see myself as too smart and too strong and too capable and too good to be a victim. But in order to be free from him, I had to think of him as a monster—the minute I started feeling sorry for him and making excuses for him, trying to see his side of things, was when I would become susceptible to his manipulations again.”

The righteous anger of girls (Daniel Handler, More, 1 fev. 2015): sobre as expectativas de garotas adolescentes e o direito à raiva.
““Why should I be nice?” It has the ring of a rallying cry, something that could summon all girls to do a little swashbuckling. When I was writing We Are Pirates, a lyric by Emily Haines, the indomitable singer of Metric, kept running through my head: “Trying to fix it,” she sings, “when instead we should break it. . . before it breaks us.” Even without knowing what the “it” is, exactly—a personal problem? a political system?—I was reminded of how trapped my heroine feels, in a world asking her to calm down, and how powerfully she rages against it in her wild and bloodthirsty escape.”

You are some body (Sady Doyle, Rookie, 22 mai. 2013): sobre mindfulness.
“Because how can someone who actually knows what her food tastes like eat a napkin? And how can someone who knows what it feels like to dance stop dancing? Becoming mindful of your body changes your whole relationship to it. You stop asking the questions you’d ask about a new car or an outfit—how does it look? Do people like it?—and begin to actually experience it as a living, changing series of experiences. Even if you can’t be 100 percent connected to your body 100 percent of the time, it can at least be your friend. And you aren’t mean to your friend.”

What you like about me (Gabby Noone, Rookie, 21 mai. 2013): sobre o poder de criação e destruição de confiança da internet.
“In the process of writing these two paragraphs, I checked Facebook about 13 times, because I am obsessed with acquiring likes. The internet is basically a cute boy I’m crushing on, and I desperately want him to like me back. So now you probably think I’m going to tell you how this is totally messing up my perception of self-worth, that I blame the internet for making all of my relationships feel shallow and that I am about to present a few easy steps to detox from it. But honestly, the internet is the reason I am a (mostly) confident person today.”

The anti-surveillance state (Janet Burns, AlterNet, 21 abr. 2015): sobre tecnologias contra reconhecimento facial.
“Harvey’s work is focused on accessibility in addition to privacy. “Most of the projects I’ve worked on are analog solutions to digital challenges,” he said. His hair and makeup style tips – a veritable how-to guide for how to create “privacy reclaiming” looks at home – are “deliberately low-cost.” His current project – software to “automatically generate camouflage…that can be applied to faces” – will allow a user to “create [their] own look and guide the design towards [their] personal style preferences.””

Nos momentos de reclusão: 1. Goofing around com a irmã; 2. Trabalhando; 3 & 4. Tentando ser artística e descolada.

Nos momentos de reclusão: 1. Goofing around com a irmã; 2. Trabalhando; 3 & 4. Tentando ser artística e descolada.

LINKS: ÁUDIO & VÍDEOS & ETC.

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#BlueBrains: A true-life horror story for young white men: tweets cheios de humor sobre comentários insuportáveis feitos por homens na internet.

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